Calming The Emotional Chaos of Major Life Changes

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One phone call, and your life is different. Forever.

You show up to work to find out it's your last day, or come home to an unexpected breakup. A loved one passes away. You pick up and move to a new town, or arrive in a new phase of your life.

Even planned changes have a First Day of your next chapter. First day of retirement. First day alone after a separation. First day in a new career.

Even positive changes put you through an emotional roller coaster – fear of the unknown, self-doubt, worry if things will work out, identity shifts. But when the change is a result of loss, forced upon you, or shattering your carefully laid-out plans, that roller coaster turns into a white-knuckle ride. One that feels like it could throw you off at any moment. The emotional complexity deepens and threatens your sanity. You don't know if you're coming or going.

Your brain stops cooperating. Emails go unanswered. Messages unreturned. You forget your food in the microwave, leave your car keys in the fridge, and can't remember the last time you felt like yourself.

You feel depressed, stressed, anxious, scattered, insecure, disorganized, and overwhelmed.

How do I know that? I've been there. Who hasn't? To be honest, I am there now. This time it's not because my personal life is changing. It's because I am watching the world on its way to hell in a handbasket - more conflicts, more authoritarians, more people parrishing in combat and from starvation, and the USA tittering on the brink of dictatorship as our worst sociatal impulses get a green light.

On a personal level and in my professional capacity, I've watched many others struggle. And for as long as we live, we'll be challenged by changes, transitions, and unexpected upheavals.

Fortunately, I have tools to keep my mind and my life out of the danger zone. In the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing with you many of these tools. I’ll zoom into real, tangible transition points people grapple with and the specific emotional and practical challenges they bring. I'll meet you where you're stuck and walk you from disruption to direction, from emotional mess to clarity, and from anxiety to stability and well-being.

So, next time, you find yourself in an emotional mess and an existential funk, you won't have to figure things out alone. I'll be there with you.

Just bookmark this post. I've created a downloadable, printable 7-Day Emotion Stabilizer Plan for Life's Upheaval kit, which contains:

• A daily checklist for all 7 days

• Space for notes + reflection

• 3 instant grounding resets.

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Let’s begin…

Watching people fall apart, stress out, and make bad decisions for themselves during serious transitions made me want to know what scientists know about humans in shock. How does the brain respond to sudden destabilizing events, and why? And most importantly, what can we do to keep it together, and do better – less suffering, more living.

It's important to know the answers to these questions. When you know your brain is biologically rerouting under stress, you stop blaming yourself for not being "productive" or "positive enough." You see the disorganization, forgetfulness, or emotional swings not as personal failings but as predictable, temporary neurobiology.

Believe it or not, even "good" change can trigger shock and cause major stress. If you don't believe me, just ask someone who's moving to a different part of the country for a job, or is retiring abroad, or is divorcing an abusive spouse.