Does your friend really care?

And Malta decked out for Christmas 😊

Friendships rely on give and take to grow. We all want to "give" and need to "take" occasionally. It sounds transactional, and that's bad if you don't like the word "transactional." But if you can see that this dynamic makes the total greater than the sum of the parts, then the word "transactional" acquires an intrinsic dimension on top of the logistical one. We benefit from having good friends, and they benefit from having us as good friends – intrinsically, logistically, and in every way possible. It's a pretty good social arrangement based on care and affinity for each other.

But sometimes, we get a funny feeling that perhaps this one friend is not as much into us as we are into them. It kind of feels up and down, hot and cold, mostly a one-way street, and you can't help but wonder, "Does this person really care about me, or is this just transactional (without the intrinsic dimension)?"

But then we start rationalizing. We don't want to accuse them of being selfish or uncaring. We don't want to lose them as a friend. We may even blame ourselves for how they treat us. So, wouldn't it be nice to know for sure? Well, there is a way you can find out if they really care about you and how much they actually value your friendship.

So, that's what this post is all about. But first, because it's still December, I have to do my shameless self-promotion.

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6 referrals = 3 months FREE (was 10)
10 referrals = 6 months FREE (was 15)

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And on to the rest of the post.

I have a trick you could use to find out where your friend, or even a significant other, stands.