How to deal with contempt

And day 15 of the 30-Days Journaling Challenge

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Onto the topic of the day.

Sarcasm is only funny spoken by a standup comedian. So, unless you're standing behind a mic and in front of an audience, your wit may cost you more than you want to pay. Although sarcasm alone may pass as a lighthearted joke between friends now and again, it sets people off instantly escalating a negative situation when used to express contempt.

I just did a video on 5 Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate, and contempt was one of them. That's because it is most corosive to any relationship but especially, so to an intimate partnership.

Research done by the Gottman Institute over several decades clearly demonstrates that contempt is the strongest and most accurate predictor of a relationship ending. Meaning, couples who use contempt when they fight almost always end up splitting up.

Sarcasm is learned and, therefore, could easily be curbed. You can simply choose not to respond to someone sarcastically and instead say something meaningful and useful. Contempt, though, it comes from deep within. It expresses outwardly an inner feeling of superiority.