Things We Normalize That Should Terrify Us

In Our Relationships

Today, I begin an exploration into a new topic – "What we normalize that should terrify us" in several areas of life, starting with our relationships. Paid subscribers will be able to go on this journey with me. Free subscribers will hit the dreaded paywall… in a moment. Sorry about that. Lulu just informed me that she wants to take her favorite treats with her to Europe when we leave in a couple of months, so I'd better hustle up some extra cash.

No doubt, the world has changed, and we have, too. Naturally, relating today is not the same as relating decades ago. Yes, I am glad I don't have to curtsy, and I can get a job, vote, and speak up for myself. But! We've normalized things in relationships that should actually terrify us. For many, life sucks because of that.

Let's start with something more and more people learn about – attachment styles. It's good info, no doubt. Educational. Eye-opening for some who finally understand why their relationships turn out the way they do. Countless articles and a few good books exist on the subject. Even I wrote about it and made a video once.

I am not sure what I am about to say applies anywhere else in the world, but it has definitely become an issue in the US.

Knowing your attachment style and identifying with it are not the same thing.