And when will our society end?
Thank you! It appears to me that nowadays language and mindfulness in using words is paramount. For years I tried to be a good listener which paradoxically doesn’t work unless one becomes wise in their choice of words. I will be writing some of the points you bring up on my whiteboard : )
Well written. Good advice on what not to do. All of the 'Dont's' lead us to the first Do: Do argue in good faith. Every 'Don't' is an example of arguing in bad faith.
The other 'Do' is Do Listen. In an energetic disagreement many people stop listening as soon as they deliver the last bon mot, and instead of listening they think about what clever riposte they will elucidate next.
That's not argument, it's monologues.
Excellent article, Valentina.
It reminds me of the book I've been reading "Bad Arguments: 100 of the Most Important Fallacies in Western Philosophy". I have a couple of friends who are the poster children for your arguments.
Thanks for writing this. I was reading about similar things earlier today. You might find the work of Ellen Langer (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ellen_Langer) interesting. She often says, "everybody does not know something. But everybody knows something else". Basically, when we think we know something, we stop paying attention to it so we stop growing.