And where “The Wire” meets the road.
How to argue with someone you wish to convince needs to recognize several things.
- Honestly listen rather than thinking about what your next fatal riposte will be.
- Recognize that losing the argument with someone who can impact your life significantly is only the second worst outcome. The worst outcome is winning.
- Understand that you and the other person agree on probably 95% of issues. You want world peace, an end to hunger, your kids to be healthy and safe and allowed to choose their own lives. We disagree on very little.
- Explain that you have the same goals as your opponent, just different beliefs about how to achieve them. Only the illiberal will insist on complete adherence.
what a great few minutes Valentina, thanks. the passage here caught my attention
How did we, as a society, fail so many people? Or did they fail themselves? Can we really blame them?
and resonated because I wrote almost the same sentiment in an draft of an upcoming post -
will read the "how not to" part now, always putting the cart before the horse am I . . .