In your article, you provide a true insight into these life-affirming issues.
While single, my personal struggles have been with people I'm attracted to who are not open or not making themselves vulnerable, and on the flip side of this coin, my discomfort with attention and - let's call it pursuit.
From my own introspection and your article, I've concluded that my actions and reactions fall within a "normal" range of actions. Being present gives me the feeling of self-confidence. Whenever I am 'off' or focused on an outcome (say, establishing a new relationship), or when I am in front of someone who is terribly 'right' for me, someone to whom I am attracted on a visceral level, intellectual and/or emotional level, someone I innately feel compelled to know; then I fumble, stumble, use overly large words, and even attempt to hide my feelings and openness, lest the remarkable woman witness my discomfort.
So on point, Val. I have both been the Negative Ninny and been saddled with such unfortunate souls. They taught me what I needed to know to grow out of my own negativity. My late wife and I also helped one another to shed our undesirable traits. For the past six months, I have been casually dating a lovely woman who has herself been saddled in the past with men who were more devil than handsome. We are good with one another's separate interests, and have enough in common to keep growing closer. I have also found many other friendships that are based on the greater love. As has been said: "Laugh and the world laughs with you; moan, and you moan alone."
In your article, you provide a true insight into these life-affirming issues.
While single, my personal struggles have been with people I'm attracted to who are not open or not making themselves vulnerable, and on the flip side of this coin, my discomfort with attention and - let's call it pursuit.
From my own introspection and your article, I've concluded that my actions and reactions fall within a "normal" range of actions. Being present gives me the feeling of self-confidence. Whenever I am 'off' or focused on an outcome (say, establishing a new relationship), or when I am in front of someone who is terribly 'right' for me, someone to whom I am attracted on a visceral level, intellectual and/or emotional level, someone I innately feel compelled to know; then I fumble, stumble, use overly large words, and even attempt to hide my feelings and openness, lest the remarkable woman witness my discomfort.
That's a lot to process for me!
So on point, Val. I have both been the Negative Ninny and been saddled with such unfortunate souls. They taught me what I needed to know to grow out of my own negativity. My late wife and I also helped one another to shed our undesirable traits. For the past six months, I have been casually dating a lovely woman who has herself been saddled in the past with men who were more devil than handsome. We are good with one another's separate interests, and have enough in common to keep growing closer. I have also found many other friendships that are based on the greater love. As has been said: "Laugh and the world laughs with you; moan, and you moan alone."