My period of languishing: 2011-2014. Penny had passed on in March; I went back to work, five days after the funeral, but work was "Meh"; I spent way too much time on the Internet, when my son didn't need attention, but the Internet was "Meh"; Aram went in the Navy, I traveled across country-twice, but travel was "Meh"; I got yelled at, for not going back to work during the summer, but the chastising from a sibling was like Charlie Brown's teacher talking. 2012 came-I felt a bit less "Meh" and went to places that Penny and I had wanted to visit together, but never did. 2013 found me back in "Meh" territory, imagining that someone who had been kind to me, and looked a bit like Penny, was my new love-HAH, as she herself told me, when the reckoning came-"Rebounding sucks-we're friends, and that's all". I felt more "Meh" lifting off of me. 2014 saw a few comeuppances, and a bit of European travel, followed by a cruise on Aram's ship, from Oahu to San Diego. "Meh" struck back, with lapses of judgment in Paris and Frankfurt-am-Main, which thankfully did not amount to much more than my being embarrassed. By October, I was rid of "Meh". Have not languished, since. Now, though, I sense my Beloved, far off in the Philippines, is languishing. So, I will do what I can to lighten her load, until I can see her again in the Fall.
My period of languishing: 2011-2014. Penny had passed on in March; I went back to work, five days after the funeral, but work was "Meh"; I spent way too much time on the Internet, when my son didn't need attention, but the Internet was "Meh"; Aram went in the Navy, I traveled across country-twice, but travel was "Meh"; I got yelled at, for not going back to work during the summer, but the chastising from a sibling was like Charlie Brown's teacher talking. 2012 came-I felt a bit less "Meh" and went to places that Penny and I had wanted to visit together, but never did. 2013 found me back in "Meh" territory, imagining that someone who had been kind to me, and looked a bit like Penny, was my new love-HAH, as she herself told me, when the reckoning came-"Rebounding sucks-we're friends, and that's all". I felt more "Meh" lifting off of me. 2014 saw a few comeuppances, and a bit of European travel, followed by a cruise on Aram's ship, from Oahu to San Diego. "Meh" struck back, with lapses of judgment in Paris and Frankfurt-am-Main, which thankfully did not amount to much more than my being embarrassed. By October, I was rid of "Meh". Have not languished, since. Now, though, I sense my Beloved, far off in the Philippines, is languishing. So, I will do what I can to lighten her load, until I can see her again in the Fall.
Sound like you were definitelly languishing. Hope your lady friend will get her mojo back soon.