And the mess we've created in relationships
wow Valentina - just wow
I'll sleep on this piece. the hammer you swing drives so many nails home.
I think most people are on the sale wavelength with this path of thought.
I appreciate that you said you take the time to understand why a person or viewpoint might trigger a visceral negative reaction in you and it helps you combat that emotion and reaction.
We definitely do not need to and in fact should not wholly subscribe to every person’s strong opinions that are motivated by their emotions, but it does not necessarily mean that path of thought they take it wrong either.
It is in how it is delivered and an unwillingness to listen to each perspective that creates all of the negative chaos driving people right now.
My latest newsletter from last week touched a lot on changing one’s perspective to gain clarity on the world around you.
My last week's newsletter touched on some of this!
You've managed to express something that has been vaguely swimming around my head for a while now. No one can win in this culture that we have created and are continuously creating - the one of the "strong independent women who don't need no men". I don't mean that there shouldn't be or that there aren't strong women, quite the opposite, but I feel the focus has become too much on the illogical desire to prove that men and women can be exactly the same and have exactly the same amount of skill in anything and everything. That's not the case - men in general are better at some things, women are better at others, and there is nothing wrong with that. That doesn't mean that men and women can't both hold high-paying jobs, but it does mean that maybe they hold them for possessing a different set of skills to their counterpart. I wish someone would acknowledge that it's okay that there are differences between men and women instead of trying to cram every skill/character trait/etc. into women, while tearing men down. And it feels like everything has been about tearing men down lately - every movie/show that comes out features a sort of man that would be perceived as weak, unskilled, stupid or cruel, to shine a light on the amazing women.. Why do we need to tear one sex down? Can't both be good? It's not a zero sum game. It is frustrating and exhausting. I am afraid for my future children to not have anyone or anything to look up to outside of the family in the future because this society breeds people that follow the culture you described, and it's not one that holds value.